“Yes, means it’s hard to say No to you…” ~  The Odds

On the whole, I’m a YES girl.  I say yes to most everything. Today, tomorrow, sometimes far in advance.

I say yes, and I mean no.

There are times when I want to say no from the get-go. I open my mouth, and my lips form yes.

Yes, because I havent seen you…..

Yes, because it may be fun…

Yes, because it’s expected of me…

Yes, because everyone else is going/staying/doing it…

I’m kind of exhausted, are you too?

Lately, I’ve been sick, sicker than I have been in a real long time. I haven’t said yes a lot, to many things. If I have, it’s most likely because I feel like I’m missing out. But mostly, I’ve just been dishonest, with others and really, with myself.

I forget, sometimes, that it’s perfectly ok, to say no.

That it’s ok to recharge, chill out and take care of myself. And really, it’s up to me to recognize that, and honor those feelings.

I’m learning (and this is a hard one for me) that it’s perfectly alright, to say no AFTER saying yes. (cue dark and scary music)

Obviously, I am still working with this one.

When that yes comes out of your (my) pie – hole, is there congruency with it?

If not, WHY not? Are we being true to ourselves with that yes? Or with that no?

I really believe it’s better to be sure now, than make a wrong decision later, or because one ‘had’ to.

And really, no one ever really ‘has’ to do anything. Do they?

So when that Yes or No comes sailing outta your mouth, take a second with it.

Because no one will love you any less for being truthful. They will just love and respect you more, for being honest.